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The Perfect Kiss

Before Wonderful I thought I knew what a good kiss was, in fact I believed that I had a few great kisses from a small number of exes. And then Wonderful kissed me. The first time, I was surprised so I didn’t move. But the second first kiss……. was amazing! Every kiss after that one was great too!

Unfortunately, Wonderful has stopped kissing me. We barely speak – a text every so often and we no longer hang out. Yes I know that this means that Wonderful “is not that into me” and I need to stop being so desperate and move on as my bestie so bluntly put it……….. several times.

I’m going through a loss of Wonderful right now and it hurts. I have hope that later on I will meet Wonderful 2.0, who will rhyme with my drum beat and whose kisses will knock me off my feet! But until that day that I meet Wonderful 2.0 I am happy for what Wonderful showed me and I will be okay. So yes I’m still single, I have kissing withdrawal but I’m alive! And where there is life, there is hope! (And I hope that I will get to enjoy more perfect kisses.)

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Tips for working two jobs (one full-time and one part-time)

You needed more money and so you got a part time job along side your full-time job.

1-Have a goal of what you will do with the money from the part-time. For example: pay off $5000 of my student loans. When you get your paycheck, close your eyes and pay that bill like planned.

2-Write down your schedule in your cell phone and/or write it in your planner or on a piece of paper; whatever form you are most comfortable with. A written schedule will keep you organised so you know where you are supposed to be and at what time.

3-Write down the hours you worked and compare that to the hours you are paid for. Yes, companies make mistakes. If there’s an issue bring it up to the correct person as soon as possible.

4-Do your best. Just because this is your part-time job it does not mean that you should goof off, you need to complete your work to the best of your ability.

5-Take care of yourself. Get adequate sleep, eat good food and do one thing just for you at least once a week.

6-Remember why you decided to do this. There will be many days and nights where you will want to quit. At that point remind yourself about why you are working this part-time job and remember that it is temporary and will end soon enough.

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My birthday

Happy birthday to me! I am officially a year older.

I wanted to try something new. First I wanted to find a wonderful cabin to just get away but I didn’t find something that I really liked. Then I wanted to go to a bed and breakfast but I was hesitant on that because I’m black and I didn’t know if the places I liked would be okay with hosting black people and I did not want any issues.

So I decided that I would sleep in a hotel. I picked a local hotel about 20 minutes from my home that I went and it was nice to sleep somewhere else. Then later in the day, Wonderful and I went to dinner and it was nice (especially since we had not talked or spent time with each other in a long while).

Next year I plan on taking time and finding a cabin to just go on a retreat for the week of my birthday. It will be so awesome!!!!

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Tips for a successful doctor’s appointment

                                          Tips for a successful doctor’s appointment

Going to the doctor can be very stressful and talking to the doctor can feel intimidating a lot of the time.

Here are my tips to make the most of your visit; they are:

1.       Have your ID, insurance card and copay ready (or cash/card/check if you do not have insurance)

2.       When filling out the forms, make sure to read what you are signing. I also recommend taking a picture of all the forms you filled out using your cell phone.

3.       Make a list of all the medications you are taking – include supplements and over the counter medications. The list should include the name of the medication, dosage, number of tablets, how often you take them, etc. Bring the list to your appointment.  

4.       Have the name, address, phone number of your primary physician and the name, address, phone number of the pharmacy you use.

5.       Before going to the doctor, write down a list of questions you have and bring the questions to your appointment. If you are too embarrassed to ask the questions, hand the list to the doctor and say that you had these questions (while pointing to the list). – have a notebook ready so that you can write down the answers.

6.       If the doctor ends up prescribing any medication for you – the doctor usually does not give you a paper prescription, they send it directly to your pharmacy so ask what the doctor is prescribing – name of the medication, what is it for, how you should take it, number of pills a day, and for how long. (Write this down so that later you can check to see if that’s what was sent to the pharmacy – remember that it might be the brand name the doctor told you but at the pharmacy it might be the generic medication hence the name might not match)

7.       Read back to the doctor what the plan is and the doctor will agree or clarify something. 

8.       At the end of the appointment, thank the doctor and schedule the follow up appointment before leaving.  

Let me know what other tips you would add!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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List of Books I read so far this year

Below is a list of books I have read so far this year:

1-   Dear Ijeawele, or a Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

This is the author’s thoughts on what it means to be a feminist and how to raise a daughter in this world that forces girls to confirm to what society feels a woman should be and instead raise a girl to be a fully formed healthy adult who is not afraid to pursue her dreams. Because of this book, I started thinking about why I am the way I am and who I want to be. I loved this book!

2-   And Again by Jessica Chiarella

Hannah, David, Connie and Linda were all dying and they signed up to get new bodies, genetically perfect bodies through a pilot program where if everything goes well the FDA will approve the program. Now that they have their new bodies, they need to figure out how to go back to their old lives or create a new path for themselves. I liked this book!

3-   The Power by Naomi Alderman

Women develop the ability to give electric shocks from their fingers and then women become the dominant gender. The book takes the reader from the first few cases of women developing the power until all women get the power and the shift from women being second class citizens in all societies in the world to fighting to become the dominant gender. And then what happens centuries after the first cases happened. I loved this book!

4-   The Girl on the Train by Paula Hawkins

Rachel rides the train and she has made a fantasy about a couple whom she sees while the train passes by. Rachel’s husband (Tom) left her for another woman (Anna) and married the other woman. Rachel struggles to cope with the end of her marriage and drinks a lot. The woman from the couple ends up murdered and Rachel puts herself in the investigation by getting close to the husband and the woman’s therapist as she tries to figure out who murdered the woman. I liked the book because of the ending when we find out what really happened and how she was murdered!

5-   All the Missing Girls by Megan Miranda

Ten years ago, Nicolette Farrell’s best friend Corinne disappeared from their rural hometown and Nicolette left home. Now Nicoletta has to go back home after receiving a note from her father who is suffering from Dementia. Another girl is missing and the list of suspects is growing. The story is told backwards from day 15 to day 1. I liked this book because I did not predict the ending!

6-   The Art of Public Speaking: Lessons from the Greatest Speeches in History by Professor John R. Hale

The author gives tips for public speaking and uses speeches from famous people through history. For example: Martin Luther King Jr, Queen Elizabeth, Susan B. Anthony, Gandhi, Mark Anthony, Abraham Lincoln, etc.

7- Snow Falls – by Gerri Hill

Jennifer Kincaid gets lost in the mountains while driving to a writer’s workshop. A mysterious woman who goes by the name of Ryan saves her, taking Jennifer to her cabin where they stay until the snow melts in spring. I liked this book because it’s a slow burn of love forming from friendship and I secretly believe in love …………… for other people.

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My Fashion Wish List

I am a plus size (size 26 in clothes and 13ww in shoes).
So getting clothes and shoes is hard!
Here is my wish list.

My 3 Cs of what I look for in an article of clothing:

Color – I love bright colors – I try and have a bright color signature article of clothing draped over black, gray pants

Comfort – The fabric needs to be able to breath and I can move in the outfit.

Cuteness – I need to feel cute while wearing the outfit!

Hoodie

I would love a gray hoodie that is oversized, goes over my butt (I’m tall so a lot of things are short) and has pockets. I dream about wearing my gray hoodie and just lounging at home when it starts to snow, with a cup of hot chocolate and watching the snow and binge watching a show.

Pants

I am looking for pants that are long enough to not hike up when I sit down! I love pants that I can put in the dryer and they do not shrink! Pants that make my butt look good and do not sag in the front because no my private area does not hang that low!

Top

I would love a top that does not hug my hanging belly, my arms fit into it and it does not show my sweat because yes I sweat!

Shoes

I am looking for rain boots; I want to step in all the puddles when it rains!
I want snow boots, so that I can safely walk in the snow and not fall!

That is my wish list and hopefully I will find exactly what I’m looking for!

Here’s to looking cute in 2019!

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Valentine’s Day

If you have a significant other then this is the day for you. Remember why you fell in love and show her that you care. Your gift should be thoughtful and not just a card, flowers and candy.

Put thought into it – what’s her favorite perfume? What is an activity she’s always wanted to try but hasn’t? Make it happen! Maybe she just wants you to take the kids and leave her alone for a full day, do it

Also, don’t just wait for once a year to do something nice for her, plan something at least once a quarter.

What do you have planned?

I do not have a significant other so I will be waiting for this day to pass and stop reminding me that I am single……….LOL.