Rossy's Corner

A look back at 2019

As 2019 comes to a close I am taking a look back at the year: the good, the bad and the wonderful.

Dave Ramsey and the Baby Steps – I completed Financial Peace University and I am currently working hard on getting rid of all my debt, target end date is in three years!

Organizer to the rescue – My sister and I hired a professional organizer and she organized our closet making it so much more functional and pretty! I can’t wait to hire her for more rooms!

Tuxedo Mask – A gorgeous male cat limped up the stairs of my house and I got him the medical help he needed. Later we got him adopted out to a loving home.

To date or not to date – I was seeing someone for a while and it was nice but not a perfect fit. I have faith that my perfect fit is out there and when we have both grown as individuals then the universe will let us meet.

Budgeting Rose – I started a vlog on YouTube about my monthly budget and I will continue to expand on it.

Panel – I participated in a panel! Something I have always wanted to do and it was even more amazing then I expected.

Tai Chi – I tried Tai Chi for the first time and I’m going to go again because I need a stress reliever in my life.

Part-time job – I started a part-time job in addition to my full time job and I survived!

Church – I found a church I really like and I have been going regularly and religion is now a big part of my life.

Sister – My mom went to Virginia and reconnected with my sister and now my other sister and I will visit her in Virginia annually!

Corn Maze – I went to my first corn maze with my church group. It was fun and I ended up with really tired legs.

Cooking – My sister and I started cooking (mostly she cooks).

Dinner with friends – I had my first dinner with friends and I really enjoyed myself.

Newark IFF – Our short film The Gift was screened at Newark International Film Festival and the best part was that our mom finally got to see our film and I loved that she watched it.

I am happy with my 2019 experience and I look forward to the adventures I will have in 2020!

Happy New Year!!!!

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I thought we had a date

I recently started flirting with a cute security guard at my work parking lot. He eventually asked to be Facebook friends then for my phone number and of course I agreed.

When he asked how could he see me outside of the parking lot setting, I told him to figure it out and then let me know. Eventually, he came back with we could go to his place and play the game Trouble. I asked him to do better but then he said he couldn’t so I countered with getting a coffee at Dunkin Donuts. He doesn’t drink coffee and neither do I so I said I would have a hot chocolate and he can get a water and donut. He told me we should do it today after he finished work. I said ok and then he said he needed to check out two apartments since he needs to move before the end of the month. I told him to give me a call when he was done to let me know when he is ready to meet at Dunkin Donuts. He agreed. I went home, fed my fur babies, prepped onions, tomatoes and other vegetables so my sister could cook and waited for his call.

So the call never came nor did a text to say sorry I can’t meet today and propose a different day. I was done. He showed me who he was (a man who cannot keep his word to me) and I believed him the first time.

I did talk to him a few days later and I did not bring it up …… nor did he. My male bestie believes that the guy might have thought I was joking or he was joking with me or he was clueless or ….or….. I told bestie that those explanations were not necessary since I watched the guy’s actions or lack of action and I believed his actions.

I downgraded him from “potential” and back to “dude I say hello to”.

And that’s what happened …….. or didn’t happened ………

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The Perfect Kiss

Before Wonderful I thought I knew what a good kiss was, in fact I believed that I had a few great kisses from a small number of exes. And then Wonderful kissed me. The first time, I was surprised so I didn’t move. But the second first kiss……. was amazing! Every kiss after that one was great too!

Unfortunately, Wonderful has stopped kissing me. We barely speak – a text every so often and we no longer hang out. Yes I know that this means that Wonderful “is not that into me” and I need to stop being so desperate and move on as my bestie so bluntly put it……….. several times.

I’m going through a loss of Wonderful right now and it hurts. I have hope that later on I will meet Wonderful 2.0, who will rhyme with my drum beat and whose kisses will knock me off my feet! But until that day that I meet Wonderful 2.0 I am happy for what Wonderful showed me and I will be okay. So yes I’m still single, I have kissing withdrawal but I’m alive! And where there is life, there is hope! (And I hope that I will get to enjoy more perfect kisses.)

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Tips for working two jobs (one full-time and one part-time)

You needed more money and so you got a part time job along side your full-time job.

1-Have a goal of what you will do with the money from the part-time. For example: pay off $5000 of my student loans. When you get your paycheck, close your eyes and pay that bill like planned.

2-Write down your schedule in your cell phone and/or write it in your planner or on a piece of paper; whatever form you are most comfortable with. A written schedule will keep you organised so you know where you are supposed to be and at what time.

3-Write down the hours you worked and compare that to the hours you are paid for. Yes, companies make mistakes. If there’s an issue bring it up to the correct person as soon as possible.

4-Do your best. Just because this is your part-time job it does not mean that you should goof off, you need to complete your work to the best of your ability.

5-Take care of yourself. Get adequate sleep, eat good food and do one thing just for you at least once a week.

6-Remember why you decided to do this. There will be many days and nights where you will want to quit. At that point remind yourself about why you are working this part-time job and remember that it is temporary and will end soon enough.

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My birthday

Happy birthday to me! I am officially a year older.

I wanted to try something new. First I wanted to find a wonderful cabin to just get away but I didn’t find something that I really liked. Then I wanted to go to a bed and breakfast but I was hesitant on that because I’m black and I didn’t know if the places I liked would be okay with hosting black people and I did not want any issues.

So I decided that I would sleep in a hotel. I picked a local hotel about 20 minutes from my home that I went and it was nice to sleep somewhere else. Then later in the day, Wonderful and I went to dinner and it was nice (especially since we had not talked or spent time with each other in a long while).

Next year I plan on taking time and finding a cabin to just go on a retreat for the week of my birthday. It will be so awesome!!!!

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Tips for a successful doctor’s appointment

                                          Tips for a successful doctor’s appointment

Going to the doctor can be very stressful and talking to the doctor can feel intimidating a lot of the time.

Here are my tips to make the most of your visit; they are:

1.       Have your ID, insurance card and copay ready (or cash/card/check if you do not have insurance)

2.       When filling out the forms, make sure to read what you are signing. I also recommend taking a picture of all the forms you filled out using your cell phone.

3.       Make a list of all the medications you are taking – include supplements and over the counter medications. The list should include the name of the medication, dosage, number of tablets, how often you take them, etc. Bring the list to your appointment.  

4.       Have the name, address, phone number of your primary physician and the name, address, phone number of the pharmacy you use.

5.       Before going to the doctor, write down a list of questions you have and bring the questions to your appointment. If you are too embarrassed to ask the questions, hand the list to the doctor and say that you had these questions (while pointing to the list). – have a notebook ready so that you can write down the answers.

6.       If the doctor ends up prescribing any medication for you – the doctor usually does not give you a paper prescription, they send it directly to your pharmacy so ask what the doctor is prescribing – name of the medication, what is it for, how you should take it, number of pills a day, and for how long. (Write this down so that later you can check to see if that’s what was sent to the pharmacy – remember that it might be the brand name the doctor told you but at the pharmacy it might be the generic medication hence the name might not match)

7.       Read back to the doctor what the plan is and the doctor will agree or clarify something. 

8.       At the end of the appointment, thank the doctor and schedule the follow up appointment before leaving.  

Let me know what other tips you would add!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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List of Books I read so far this year

Below is a list of books I have read so far this year:

1-   Dear Ijeawele, or a Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

This is the author’s thoughts on what it means to be a feminist and how to raise a daughter in this world that forces girls to confirm to what society feels a woman should be and instead raise a girl to be a fully formed healthy adult who is not afraid to pursue her dreams. Because of this book, I started thinking about why I am the way I am and who I want to be. I loved this book!

2-   And Again by Jessica Chiarella

Hannah, David, Connie and Linda were all dying and they signed up to get new bodies, genetically perfect bodies through a pilot program where if everything goes well the FDA will approve the program. Now that they have their new bodies, they need to figure out how to go back to their old lives or create a new path for themselves. I liked this book!

3-   The Power by Naomi Alderman

Women develop the ability to give electric shocks from their fingers and then women become the dominant gender. The book takes the reader from the first few cases of women developing the power until all women get the power and the shift from women being second class citizens in all societies in the world to fighting to become the dominant gender. And then what happens centuries after the first cases happened. I loved this book!

4-   The Girl on the Train by Paula Hawkins

Rachel rides the train and she has made a fantasy about a couple whom she sees while the train passes by. Rachel’s husband (Tom) left her for another woman (Anna) and married the other woman. Rachel struggles to cope with the end of her marriage and drinks a lot. The woman from the couple ends up murdered and Rachel puts herself in the investigation by getting close to the husband and the woman’s therapist as she tries to figure out who murdered the woman. I liked the book because of the ending when we find out what really happened and how she was murdered!

5-   All the Missing Girls by Megan Miranda

Ten years ago, Nicolette Farrell’s best friend Corinne disappeared from their rural hometown and Nicolette left home. Now Nicoletta has to go back home after receiving a note from her father who is suffering from Dementia. Another girl is missing and the list of suspects is growing. The story is told backwards from day 15 to day 1. I liked this book because I did not predict the ending!

6-   The Art of Public Speaking: Lessons from the Greatest Speeches in History by Professor John R. Hale

The author gives tips for public speaking and uses speeches from famous people through history. For example: Martin Luther King Jr, Queen Elizabeth, Susan B. Anthony, Gandhi, Mark Anthony, Abraham Lincoln, etc.

7- Snow Falls – by Gerri Hill

Jennifer Kincaid gets lost in the mountains while driving to a writer’s workshop. A mysterious woman who goes by the name of Ryan saves her, taking Jennifer to her cabin where they stay until the snow melts in spring. I liked this book because it’s a slow burn of love forming from friendship and I secretly believe in love …………… for other people.